Z's Comfort Zone

I love my life, it’s such a beautiful life. 

I also love how solution-oriented I am. 

Sometimes it frustrates me. I know a lot of the time, that’s not what other people need when they come to me with their worries.

I also wonder if I do the same thing for myself. Where I don’t let myself sit with things for too long without coming up with the solution for it. Do I stall my emotional process? Does that mean I bottle things up or end up reacting more strongly to it later because I didn’t let myself sit in it? 

And maybe that’s why it’s so much more overwhelming when I can’t solve something immediately. Like heartbreak and disappointment where there appears to be no solution except to just move through that feeling. Some emotions you just have to sit with it.

I like to think I’ve become good at emotional self awareness. I like to think I’ve only grown my EQ over the years.  

(Sometimes the awareness can make you worse than if you were just ignorantly upset. Shifting the blame and not holding yourself accountable is so much easier.)

But I love the finite nature of solutions. 

If I feel like I’ve experienced a trauma through someone else’s actions, I either need to remove them from my life or address it with them or both.  Those are solutions. Those solutions will only help the emotion move through faster and with a more constructive feeling. A more positive feeling. 

Solutions have gotten me through life.

I can remember the exact moment when I stopped seeing things as problems, and instead took control of my life to start to implement solutions. 

I’m as successful as I am now because of it. 

I’ve truly found joy because of it. 

My goal is to only continue on my track of joy, self-respect, community, overall health—both mentally and physically, and successful.   

I feel like I can’t get there with problem mindset. 

Which is why I don’t let myself sit in things for long anymore. I’m only inviting a state of depression that way. 

Instead, how do I fix this? 

If this emotion is being destructive to me and my well-being, and if it is staying for longer than it should, how do I fix this? 

At the end of the day, when I take it to God, we always find solutions.